Why is it so hard to do?
We say to our children, without hesitation, “You are here to shine, not grovel.” How can we embrace this for ourselves? Having made it this far in life, we have a lot to celebrate! Getting here was not just by happenstance, we have used a lot of creativity and perseverance to arrive at this place and time. And the choices going forward are ours to make. In this shorter half of life it becomes clearer that we are truly responsible for our own lives, not so much everybody else’s.
Choosing what lifts our heart is not frivolous, it is life enhancing.
Developing discernment, self support and self compassion becomes crucial to living a meaningful life. Erickson’s developmental task for this stage of life, living with integrity, requires identifying our values and living in sync with them.
What will others think if I say “no”?
Volunteerism, often a great source of connection and community, needs to come from living our values, not from an inability to say no, concerns about what others will think, or a fear if you don’t do the job it won’t get done.
Valuing myself enough to take the time to explore my interests, to try something new, to connect in new ways brings delight.
And delight is worth celebrating! Let’s not worry about looking frivolous, let’s choose joy and celebrate!
Ideas from our book: Conscious Creative Retirement: 8 Essential Keys